Have you ever noticed that your child thinks or expresses him or herself differently? And although it is not a conventional way of thinking it is still quite amazing if we only stop worrying about their future or ‘fixing the problem’ and listen.
Early one morning at my kitchen table, a tiny five-year-old sits staring up at her seventeen-year-old brother Lev. They are doing math. My son is exhausted because he just spent 25 minutes explaining the complicated concept of addition to his little sister. He looks very serious and hopeful that she got it. He rubs his eyes and asks his "test" question: "So, Alice, one plus one equals ....”
“Friends,” Alice answers, smiling. He starts all over, using his fingers, fruits and other objects. He tries really hard and then he says again, “One plus one. . .”
“Love,” she says.
I laughed so hard I nearly choked. He was so big and strong. She was so small and insistent.